faq
Everything people ask before they book, in one place. Tap a question to open it. If yours isn’t here, the etiquette page probably covers it; if not, ask me.
Money & Deposits
What is your deposit policy?
I’d rather not take deposits at all — it’s one more thing for me to track. But the cancellations I do get skew heavily toward appointments booked a day or more out, so that’s where deposits apply: pre-bookings only. Booking for today or tomorrow? No deposit needed. Receipts are available on request.
How much is the deposit?
A deposit is a request, not a requirement, so I reward it with $20 off your rate. You pick the amount — something reasonable, not a penny to game the discount. If deposits aren’t your thing, you’re welcome to wait and book day-of, but I can’t promise the slot will still be there. A deposit reserves your spot, nothing more. Dates over four hours do require one; we’ll discuss the amount when we book.
Is the deposit refundable or transferable? How long does it last?
Not refundable, but with 24 or more hours’ notice I’ll apply it to a future date. If the cancellation is on my end, you get a full refund or a transfer, your choice — and if it was my fault, the transfer never expires as long as I’m still working. If the cancellation was yours, the transfer is good for four weeks.
What's the difference between a deposit and a travel fee?
A travel fee covers my transport and is due before I leave for an outcall. It’s not a deposit and it doesn’t come off your rate. Your spot locks in the moment the travel fee is paid, so if you want the time held, pay it early.
How do I pay?
Cash, preferably, with the balance handed over at the start of the appointment — that’s exactly how I like it. Zelle and Cash App also work. If you want extra discretion, Amazon gift cards do the job. Whatever the method, sort it out before you arrive; logistics don’t get to eat into your time. Electronic payments go to the number in my footer.
Do you negotiate your rate?
No. I run specials constantly and I’m generous with them. If you push after I’ve quoted you, you’ll be talking to a wall.
Cancellation
What's your cancellation policy?
If you need to change or cancel, tell me as soon as you know. I’m flexible with people who communicate — we’ll work something out. If you go quiet and don’t show, you can’t book again until you’ve paid a cancellation fee, typically $20.
On timing: you get a 10-minute grace period if you’re running late, and please don’t arrive early. Your booking reserves a specific slot, so the session ends at the booked end time (plus the grace period) regardless of when you walk in. A one-hour appointment at 1:00 ends at 2:00, or 2:10 if you used the grace period. The clock doesn’t restart for you.
What if you have to cancel?
Full refund or transfer, your choice. Depending on why I had to cancel, I may throw in a discount for the trouble.
Screening & Booking
Do you require screening?
Yes, always — mine and yours. Some people need more of it than others and take longer to clear. That’s not personal; it’s the job.
What do you need from me?
Sometimes as little as your phone number. Sometimes a state ID, a selfie holding it, a long-standing professional profile like LinkedIn, a work email, references from other providers, an AP411 ID, or whatever else I land on for your situation. If you’ve got an idea I haven’t thought of, pitch it.
Why wasn't I screened?
If I didn’t ask you for anything, you were still screened — light screening doesn’t need input from you. When it comes up short, I ask for more. Gut counts too, so your words matter: someone who has clearly read my requirements and respects my boundaries glides through. Low-effort “hey” and “available?” texts get more scrutiny, or no reply at all.
Why are you ignoring me? Why no reply to my form?
I’m not ignoring you. Would you want me on my phone during your session? I have other clients, a full-time job, and a life, and the signal where I live is patchy — a text can take half an hour to land in either direction. If you filled out the booking form and heard nothing, the notification probably ate it. Text me that you sent it and I’ll go find it.
How do I arrange a date?
Text me your full name, the date, the time, and how long you’d like. If it’s more than a day out, use the booking form or email instead. Don’t call — I won’t answer and I don’t check voicemail. Including your screening info in that first message gets you speed-tracked.
Can I see you right now?
Usually I’m booked a couple of days out, but same-day does happen — text me. No reply in an hour? Try once more, and include the details both times.
How far ahead should I book?
As far out as you like, though I prefer inside two weeks. Far-out bookings need a deposit.
It's my first time -- which duration do I choose?
Not 30 minutes. It’s never enough, and I don’t take reviews from 30-minute sessions. An hour is the sweet spot. Forty-five minutes if you’re on a budget. And no, we can’t “start with 30 and see how it goes” — extensions aren’t available on 30- or 45-minute sessions, because two rushed half-hours don’t add up to one good hour. If you do want to extend an eligible session, it’s $250 per half hour versus $200 if booked ahead.
Verification & Trust
How do I know you're real?
Check my reviews and verification badges before you book. They’re there so you don’t have to take my word for it.
Do your photos match? Where are your reviews and verification?
My photos are recent and only lightly retouched. Reviews live on TER, and I’m verified on Tryst, Slixa, and Velvet22. I don’t catfish — it wastes both our time, and I’d rather you arrive knowing exactly who’s opening the door.
Privacy & Discretion
How is my privacy protected? Will you ever contact my spouse?
Your screening material goes nowhere. No client names get posted anywhere, ever. I never reach out first unless you’ve told me it’s safe to. If you need a burner number or email-only contact, say so when you book and I’ll work with it.
Do you give references? Can I list you as one?
Yes, within reason. Ask me after our date, tell me what the other provider needs, and give me a heads-up before you use my name so I’m not caught off guard.
Session Format & Logistics
Incall or outcall?
Incall is in the Santa Cruz Mountains; I’ll send detailed directions once your date is booked. Outcall is available with a travel fee. I also tour neighboring cities now and then — check the announcements on the home page.
FMTY, TMTY, DMTY, FYTM -- what are these, and do you do them?
Fly me to you, take me to you (you’re hosting the trip), drive me to you, and fly you to me. Yes to all four, with a deposit and travel covered. These take real planning, so talk to me early.
Who & What
Who do you see?
Adults of any gender — men, women, trans, nonbinary, and couples. All body types, all experience levels, and first-timers are especially welcome. Your manners matter far more than your ID photo.
Couples?
See the members section: https://oksana.consulting/members/
Duos?
See the members section: https://oksana.consulting/members/
Extras
Gifts?
Never expected, always appreciated. My wishlist is here: https://www.amazon.com/hz/wishlist/ls/2Z6L63E2I90EL?ref_=wl_share. Cash works if you’re stuck for ideas.
Food, drink, substances, Covid?
Bring whatever you like — sealed, if I’m meant to share it. I’m 420-friendly. Indulge, just don’t get so sideways that it changes the session. If you show up visibly too far gone, I may end things early, and there’s no refund for that. Covid: I’m vaccinated.
Positioning
Why a companion over dating?
You skip three dates of guessing. No swiping, no “what are we,” no six weeks to find out you’re incompatible. Pick who you want, book the time, and get the whole experience with the terms clear on both sides. Isn’t that what everyone actually wants from a date anyway?
What's your ideal date?
Someone who did the reading, shows up on time, and is glad to be there. That’s it. That’s the whole list.
What are your do's and don'ts?
I’m open to considering most things. My one non-negotiable is that both of us have to be enthusiastically on board — consent is the rule, and respecting a “no” is part of it.
Access
Private photos and newsletter?
You can purchase sets of private photos and videos here: https://oksana.consulting/members/private-gallery/. The newsletter is coming soon. If you want the password to the members area, just ask me.